TOO MUCH HONESTY

Today we’re going to talk about honesty, and how it is directly related to men’s stupidity, and I mean that in the least high school sort of way possible.

Don’t get me wrong, honesty is a good thing. Saying things like “I love you” and meaning them is important, and expressing your feelings is important. However, there are certain things that just shouldn’t be said. If anyone has ever seen the movie Liar Liar, they’ll know that there’s something called too much honesty. Jim Carey’s example to his son is that you can’t tell your pregnant wife that she looks like a hippo with a gland problem because it’s unnecessarily hurtful, so you just tell her that she’s beautiful.

It’s a simple concept. There’s no reason to say mean things about someone’s appearance when you know it’s going to hurt them. Why would you say something that you know is going to make someone feel incredibly ugly unless you’re trying to hurt them?

And if you’re trying to hurt them, why are they your girlfriend in the first place?

I’ll give you my own example. Say a girl had a mole on her face, and she tells her boyfriend that when she was younger, it was one of her biggest insecurities because it made her feel ugly and different from everyone else in an unconventional way. Is it then right for said boyfriend to say something like “I was grossed out by your mole at first, but then loved you despite of it”?

Boys, the answer is no, it is not right for you to say that. It makes it sound like you’re saying “you’re beautiful except for that thing on your face.” No matter what you think, there is different connotation when you say “I didn’t like it at first” than when you say “it grossed me out.” It doesn’t matter how much time has passed since she told you it made her insecure, and it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been going out. It’s not an appropriate thing to say, unless you’re trying to be hurtful, and if you’re trying to be hurtful, don’t have a girlfriend.

Like I said, honesty is nice. I like when people tell the truth, but there’s telling the truth in a nice way, and then there’s being a jerk about it. Why say something that’s going to make someone feel bad if you can help it? Why point out your girlfriend’s mole as the flaw in her that you love her despite of? It’s ridiculous.

If you don’t want to sound like an ass, it’s important to be delicate, so please turn your brain-to-mouth filter up to its full volume.